So, with that said, I first want to tell you that I’m truly sorry for many things. Divorce is never any one person’s fault, and while in my mind, I always blamed you, I now realize there are many things I could have done differently to be a better wife.
Maybe I could have tried harder to help you through some tough times, maybe I could have been less selfish in some ways, and maybe I could have waited longer before I gave up hope and allow us both to concede.
And then during the separation and through the divorce. I said hurtful, mean, cruel things to you. I’m really sorry. At the time, I was hurting, and I was angry and scared. Looking back, I realize how unproductive anger really is, and how it can only cause people to make bad, even foolish, decisions.
After all of that, and even during those times, I tried to be your friend, and was then disappointed and didn’t understand why you didn’t want to be mine. Now I realize I shouldn’t have tried so hard, or even expected anything back then. There was too much anger, blame and bitterness for me to even think that friendship was possible.
All that said, the dust has cleared, you have moved on and So have I. I think that we’ve both managed to get on with our lives and settle into a post marital life that certainly isn’t perfect, but that is working.
So, what I was wondering is, moving forward, would you like to be my friend?
Since I loved you enough at one time to marry you, and you loved me enough to marry me, do you think it’s possible to forgive each other, bury the past and start a new friendship, based on the little things we used to like about each other.
As time passes, and I look back at what it was like being married to you, I remember some of the things that can still upset me. But I also recall the happy times, the times we laughed, and some of the wonderful memories we made. Can we take those memories and use that as the foundation for our friendship, not expecting to be best friends, of course, but just to develop a new relationship?
There will undoubtedly be times of frustration, just as there are in most relationships. But friendship is different than marriage, so unlike our marriage, Maybe we can make our friendship work.
I will always wish you the best. Always. And honestly, I will probably always harbor a little resentment for some of the things you did and the way you treated me as well as deep regret and sadness for the way I acted and not noticing my actions would cause such a great consequence. But I am trying to focus more on the present and the future, rather than things that no longer matter.
I really do try and be better every single day. I just would like you in my life. Maybe there is a reason you think we could not or should not try to be friends after all these years. Maybe I just don’t see things the way you do. But I’ve extended my last olive branch, the tree has no more branches to give.
